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  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)
    Anonymous (not verified)
    6:49pm Wed, Jun 6, 2012
    Like the other guy said, you

    Like the other guy said, you should sue immediately.  I have a skin bridge too, which covers about a third of the diameter of my entire penis.  By the time I finally saw a doctor and learned what caused this, the statute of limitations had already expired, and so I'm left with no legal protection here.  I cannot seek compensation.  If I want surgery to correct this, I'll have to pay entirely out of pocket.  And I need it.  And it's expensive.  I've been trying to save enough money and/or build enough credit for four years already, and until I do, I can't even have sex.  I'm a 25-year-old virgin and there's nothing I can do about it.

    I wish I found out when I was just fifteen.  Do something about it!  Now!

  • Women overwhelmingly prefer sex with a man who has a foreskin
    Doulalee (not verified)
    11:20am Tue, Jun 5, 2012
    restored foreskin

    I have had the pleasure of experiencing both cut and uncut men.  I have never had occasion to be with a man who has or is in the process of restoring.  Sorry.

  • I LOVE foreskin
    Anonymous (not verified)
    12:28am Tue, Jun 5, 2012
    Once I thought like you but boy did I come around over time...

    In high school I more or less felt as you did, with one big exception: no one knew I was intact. I vowed to get myself cut in college, but when I got to college, I procrastinated. In those days, 40 years ago, there was very little pro-circ talk outside of the maternity ward. One day, near the end of my sophomore year, I read for the first time that being intact was not unhealthy. When I was in graduate school, the local paper one day had a substantial article revealing that the AAP had deliberated RIC in 1971 and 1975, and come out against it. In 1979, the trade association of obgyns had endorsed the AAP's position. In 1983, I chanced on Wallerstein's landmark 1980 book, and I became an intactivist. But I did not begin appreciating the sexual advantages of being intact until my 40s, and I have learned a lot about my intact penis after 55 years of age. When I met my wife in my late 30s, I discovered that she knew more about intact sex than I did! I now am deeply grateful to my mother for refusing to consent to my circumcision.

  • Intact penises are not ugly
    gerald (not verified)
    6:02pm Mon, Jun 4, 2012
    I love my circumcised husband

    Now, I love my circumcised husband. I love every single part of him and to me, he is perfect. All of his physical flaws - even the circumcision related ones that he had no control of - make him that much more beautiful to me

    Do you know as a man this is music to my ears. I hope to find a great wife like you. We need more awareness of the issue among frustrated couples. The awareness will dispell blame and judgment and denial of sexual frustrations- including self-blame and self-judgment. Awareness will faciliate the healing and we can blame the real person behind the problem- that doctor who actually makes his living ruining and diminishing the quality of people's lives.

    I wish that I could go back in time, before I was even born, and tell her "I'm going to marry your son someday. The penis that he is born with will be fine, I promise that I won't think that it's ugly. Don't harm it on my behalf, it's not what either of us will want."

    Again this is so well said and you make me feel so happy that you have this attitude. There are so many women I am learning about who have attitudes and emotions and desires that bring me such great joy. Oh I hope I can find one of them for myself. 

  • I LOVE foreskin
    gerald (not verified)
    5:18pm Mon, Jun 4, 2012
    I strongly suggest you do a

    I strongly suggest you do a study of Toxic Shame. A good start would be John Bradshaw's book "Healing the Shame that Binds you". He also has this series on youtube. I would even venture to say that toxic shame as opposed to healthy shame is probably the single most destructive psychological emotion, responsible for more trouble than any other single thing, though it gets connected with many other things. 

    Please, all I ask is that you don't do anything stupid to yourself, and appreciate the fact that many many men, myself included, wish we could be in your shoes. So envy runs both ways buddy. 

  • I LOVE foreskin
    gerald (not verified)
    5:09pm Mon, Jun 4, 2012
    wow, that was so well said.

    wow, that was so well said.

  • I LOVE foreskin
    gerald (not verified)
    5:05pm Mon, Jun 4, 2012
    Let me respond to both you

    Let me respond to both you you ladies, as a man. First off I want to say I liked your reply Aubrey. I think it should be read and studied in entirety and put into practice. I have some further advice to give. Shock is indeed the right word for some.

    First off, let me say I appreciate and enjoy the fact that you are troubled by this. Really, as a man, especially in today's culture, I never know how much women actually care. Modern "Psychology" teaches us that we are all selfish creatures, so there is so much that causes one to be cynical. You help to disprove all of this. I am really really happy that you care, and are conflicted, though at the same time I hate to see you suffer. What can I tell you as a man? 

    Aubrey is right I think about the shock, and the avoidance phase. There are a few things I think you can do to encourage his willingness to get through that stage and go about processing the emotion and doing the restoration. One is to learn as much as you can about people who have restored. Gently plant seeds of hope in him, based on true experiences and real possibilities. It is easier to face painful realities, losses and traumas when you realize there is hope or a light at the end of the tunnel. That has helped me. But you have to be very subtle in doing this, so he doesn't think you're trying to manipulate him or judge him as he is now. 

    Secondly, help him grieve. I mean, we men like to be men, strong, powerful and protective of you. We don't need or want our women to become our new mothers, and yet paradoxically I think every man likes to be able to cry in his favorite woman's lap sometimes with her stroking his hair. He likes to be able to be totally vulnerable and know he can trust you to see him. You have to have this attitude towards his pain and grief. The sooner he can get through grief, and mourning, the sooner you can be better. Freud in one of his few good ideas talked about mourning and meloncholia. Aborted grief produces depression. Can you be a wife who helps him grieve? Your softness and silent wordles witnessing does more for him than any words can do, even such as asking him how he feels and those questions that women love to hear.

    Third. You can't really expect to change a man or a man to change for you on your schedule. Men do change, and sometimes they even do it for others, such as the person they love. Generally speaking though, they must feel they are changing for themselves, or at least on their own accord and with their own volition. What you can do is just share your feelings. Share your feelings from your point of view, not as judgments or blame or criticism or condemnation. Share your hopes and dreams, frustration and issues, as they relate to your inner world and as if he is not responsible for them, and in the end be subjected and submitted to him at his mercy and decision. If he is a good man he will take your feelings and desires into consideration, to please you since he loves you. But you have to be subjected and submitted (not popular in our culture these days). This works much better than demanding, manipulating or withdrawing. Trust that he will do it for you, even if you are not sure. Trust is a great skill to develop. Have faith. Men love a woman's faith when she is asking for something she wants. 

    Fourth and the last I can think of is love. Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy, nor does it boast. It is not proud or rude. it is not self seeking or easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. Do you love your husband? Are you loving your husband? Are you really?

    About me- I am a cut man who is preparing to start restoring, as soon as possible. I have gone through a great deal of grief lately and there is more to come. So I know the suffering. I carry a deep envy for intact men, as a burning sensation in my heart. I know the tragedy. Behold my scars. I have to believe that with every sorrow or loss must come at least the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit, though I know now how or wherefrom. I have to have faith or I am dead. Am I any different than you?

    Good luck and peace be with you

     

  • Women overwhelmingly prefer sex with a man who has a foreskin
    Anonymous (not verified)
    4:28pm Mon, Jun 4, 2012
    Will you ladies please

    Will you ladies please comment on the differences you find between restored foreskin and natural foreskin? Is his intact foreskin better than his restored, and if so, is it significant and noticable? Honesty is appreciated here

  • Intactivism: Week in Review May 26, 2012
    Neilesh Kumar (not verified)
    7:56am Fri, Jun 1, 2012
    I came across your blog when

    I came across your blog when googling for cool biotechnology articles – didn’t expect to find this, but enjoyed some of your posts. Keep it up.

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)
    Anonymous (not verified)
    4:03pm Fri, May 25, 2012
    not exactly the same but I can relate

    Sex for me is very painful for a different reason so I can relate to that. Sorry about your situation, I'd give anything to have the whole circumcision idea done away with. It's done nothing but frustrate me. That sorta thing should not be up to parents to do to their children. Just one more reason religions continue to blow my mind. Anyway, I know this is an old article but I'm sure the issue probably hasn't completely gone away for you. Wish you luck.

  • Benefits of foreskin restoration - Part 1 Sensitivity
    Tally
    12:07am Sun, May 20, 2012
    Foreskin restoration resources

    Sorry to hear that you got circumcised recently. You will need to wait until the circumcision wound heals before you start tugging to restore your foreskin. Until then, you may want to wear a retainer like the Manhood to protect your sensitive bits.

    What is Foreskin Restoration? describes restoring foreskin

    Here are some foreskin restoration community sites:

    • Restoring Foreskin page on Facebook
    • Restoring Foreskin.org is a supportive community site for men
    • Foreskin Restoration - Intactivism Network is a forum open to all

    Foreskin restoration devices and methods is a good resource and another one is Beginner's guide to foreskin restoration.

  • Benefits of foreskin restoration - Part 1 Sensitivity
    Liam (not verified)
    7:08am Thu, May 17, 2012
    Foreskin Restoration

    Hi, I've just been circumcised a few days ago due to phimosis and I've been researching the difference between cut and uncut in the run-up to my op. I've heard about this foreskin restoration and I'm curious about how it's done because reading circumcised people's experiences has brought me to realise what I could lose. I play guitar and you get pads on your fingers from the pressure of pressing on the strings and the thought of having that happen to my penis is horrifying. Could you give me some info or links on how to go about restoring the foreskin please? Any help would be much appreciated!

    Many thanks,

    Liam

  • Intactivism: Week in Review May 5, 2012
    Anonymous (not verified)
    8:58am Mon, May 14, 2012
    MY EXPERIENCE

    FROM AN ANONYMOUS MALE
    When my father was in school for veterinary medicine, he became aware that almost all mammals have and need their foreskins.  I was born while he was getting his doctorate.  Despite their awareness, my parents had me circumcised.  They knew better, but did not attempt to protect me. 

    It was a disaster.  Almost all of the skin was removed and I have lived my life with scrotal skin pulled up and covering much of my penis.  It was uneven: one side of my penis was severely pulled to the side.  There are several ugly skin tags on the under side, and a painful adhesion between the remaining penile skin and the head on the topside.  This mutilation has resulted in pain and embarrassment throughout my life.  The circumcision scar is large and uneven.  My most private, male part is quite insensitive. 

    When I first read about restoring foreskin, my wife and I had a long conversation and I told her that I would not attempt it unless she was completely, fully supportive.  However, when I started, this became a major issue in our marriage and was one of the major causes -- if not the foremost reason -- for its failure and our divorce.  Circumcision has had a profound, negative impact on my life.  It is time to stop this nonsense.  We now know that there are no benefits for routine infant circumcision, for boys or for adults -- except to finance hospitals and physicians.  Boys die every year from this money-making quackery.  The actual medical need for male circumcision is incredibly, extraordinarily rare. 

    My experience is very common.  I am humiliated: I am sorry I cannot provide my name.

  • Memories of my infant circumcision
    Anonymous (not verified)
    11:49pm Thu, May 3, 2012
    The brutality of circumcision

    The brutality of circumcision is a horrific revelation.  I married an "intact" man from Europe and the first time we really discussed it was prior to the birth of our first child.  Being raised in the US and fearing heckling in the locker room, I just assumed we would do it, but he was having absolutely nothing to do with it.  It was only after discussing it as some kind of bizarre cultural norm here that I (of course) became outraged and agreed not to have it done.

    Our son is now seven years old and a few weeks ago, we were telling him stories about his birth and I mentioned that on the day after he was born, the doctor came in our room, closed the door, sighed a big sigh and told us how glad she was to see the "no circ" sign on his bassinet.  Suddenly I realized that he had no idea what circumcision was.  When I asked him if he ever saw another kiddo's pee-pee in the bathroom or when changing, he confirmed that he had, but just assumed that God made them differently.  When I explained that God made everyone like him, but some Mommies and Daddies decided to remove part of their pee-pees.  Since it was not something that needed to be done, we left the decision for him to make later on.  If a baby is too small to make a decision and they could be hurt by not doing something like that, then the Mom and Dad should absolutely go ahead with it, but otherwise, the decision isn't theirs to make.  It was literally an hours long conversation with a multitude of absolutely fascinating questions.

    That was maybe 3-4 weeks ago and he STILL frequently comes to give me a hug and says "Mommy, thank you so much for saving my pee-pee!" 

  • No one wants a turkey neck for Thanksgiving
    Tally
    11:41am Wed, May 2, 2012
    Ingenious

    Very ingenious way to keep your scrotal skin from being tensioned when tugging.

  • No one wants a turkey neck for Thanksgiving
    Anonymous (not verified)
    11:25am Sun, Apr 29, 2012
    Turkey Neck

    I have been restoring for 3 years now.  Over the past year, I have begun using tugging weights, which have a tendency to pull not only shaft skin but some skin from my scrotum too.   I have tried various ways to eliminate "webbing" and finally found an inexpensive way to keep the shaft skin isolated while tugging.    Go down to your local department store and buy a sports wrist band.  They are elastic and are generally covered with soft material.   Cut a hole through the center of the band (enough for your shaft).   Place it through the hole and then wrap the band around your scrotum.   The band will separate the "webbing" skin and will also stretch your scrotum downward.    If the band slips a bit, which mine did, I took a pair of suspenders, separated them, and then used one side, stretching it around my waist and connecting the ends to the top of the wristband.   This way, it keeps the wristband in place..... allowing your scrotum to stretch down and the weighted tugger to pull the isolated shaft skin.

  • I LOVE foreskin
    Anonymous (not verified)
    6:19pm Sat, Apr 21, 2012
    To "uncut is a curse"......I

    To "uncut is a curse"......I feel so sorry for you that you are that unhappy with your normal natural body.  Especially since your unhappiness comes from not "looking" like others in the high school shower and female gossip.  What a shame!  Honestly, many women do not understand or appreciate the natural anatomy of a male, especially in high school.  That is what happens when people are immature and uneducated on these things.  But you are wrong, you can still choose to get circumcised and so what if it's painful?  Pain should not be an obstacle, unless it's not really that important.  My hope for you is that at some point, you discover how lucky you are to have had parents who didn't alter your body as an infant and that you have a body that is whole and normal.  I hope that you one day find a woman who is not shallow and ignorant, and the two of you can enjoy your bodies as nature intended.  One day, you will be appreciating the fact that you are able to enjoy your whole genitals and it won't matter who you look like or don't look like.

  • Back Pain: How I made the pain stop
    Dr Vaughan Dabbs (not verified)
    11:32am Mon, Apr 16, 2012
    This is Why Your Back Hurts

    Interesting article. You may want to visit my website on the link I posted with the comment. I wrote a book about back pain care entitled "This is Why Your Back Hurts", eliminate your back pain without Drugs, Doctors or Surgery in just 6 Weeks! You may want to check it out. This would probably helps. Thank you

  • I LOVE foreskin
    whatUneverknew (not verified)
    12:53am Wed, Apr 11, 2012
    re: Uncut is a curse

    Your parents failed you all right, but not in the way you think.  They were right to protect your body, but they failed to teach you that conformity is not the seat of self-satisfaction.  Somehow being different is this huge problem for you.  WHY? You aren't different from most of the men in the world. It's sad to think that if most people in your social circle were missing their left testicle you would lament having yours.  There's nothing shameful about the normal body, so don't be ashamed. That's letting other people's messed up ideas mess you up. Self-love will always evade you if you live your life like that. \ /,,

  • I LOVE foreskin
    Anonymous (not verified)
    8:42pm Mon, Apr 9, 2012
    Uncut is a curse

    Sorry but I hate being uncut. I'm 32 and everyone I know knows I'm uncut because I showered after football practice in high school or I slept with women who told other women. It sucks being different and ashamed! My parents always said they didn't want me to hurt and my response was always I wouldn't remember it anyways....so now I am forced to be different the rest of my life. I guess I could find a doctor but its too late and I would remember the pain. Oh well!

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)
    Anonymous (not verified)
    10:09pm Thu, Mar 29, 2012
    Please find a lawyer and sue

    Please find a lawyer and sue the doctor who circumcised you. He screwed up and deserves to pay.

  • Intactivism: Week in Review March 24, 2012
    freddys (not verified)
    2:28pm Mon, Mar 26, 2012
    Dodgy Circumcision Klamp in Africa

    The report shows 37% complications following the use of this clamp, and the study even show that it was unethical!  How in the world can WHO keep on promoting male circumcision in Africa?  How many more thousands of African men will be permanently mutilated on the basis of flawed reports?  Where is the moral integrity of those who promote circumcision as a preventive measure for HIV infection?

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)
    chris (not verified)
    11:43pm Wed, Mar 21, 2012
    same

    I have a skin bridge on the left side of my head and shaft. Luckily, its about 1/2 a centimeter. I've always had questions about it, seeing other guys' being normal. Fortunately, I don't honestly care. It happens and its not easy to deal with, but personally, it beats getting surgery. I, like most teenagers, have had a few encounters. Girls don't seem to notice, or they don't seem to care. Everyone has some weird flaws, nothing big:)

  • I LOVE foreskin
    Vaibhav (not verified)
    11:46am Mon, Mar 19, 2012
    I loved the calm and

    I loved the calm and smoothmanner in which glided past the article !  

  • The Fox Without a Tail
    Cat (not verified)
    12:58am Fri, Mar 9, 2012
    I think you're right on the

    I think you're right on the money with this post.  You might also find this interesting:
    http://www.moralogous.com/2012/03/01/a-brief-history-of-the-foreskin-and-circumcision/
     

    Lillian Dell’Aquila Cannon uses the fable about the fox and the grapes here, but she is reaching a similar conclusion.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

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